Monthly Archives: September 2010

An End to Bullying

Oh, for the love of Athena, people! I keep seeing stories about kids committing suicide because people bullied them about being — or appearing to be — gay. This week alone, I’ve read about three teens who have died due to bullying: Asher Brown, Seth Walsh, and Tyler Clementi. Billy Lucas also died this month. It breaks my heart that these kids saw no option other than killing themselves.

How many people must commit suicide — how many people must die — before we finally take a stand and say that this is enough? How many people must die before people realize that we all deserve to be safe from bullying and violence, regardless of our gender, sex, sexual orientation, race, religion, ability, athletic preferences, class, clothing choices? Continue reading

Can’t Convert Us!

Apparently, there’s something about a pack of queers and transfolk that makes the evangelicals absolutely desperate to save us. In the month that I’ve been living in Chicago, I hadn’t been approached by a single evangelical (prior to this weekend, anyway). I go out with friends, and in seventeen hours, we get approached three separate times. Continue reading

Leave Him Alone! — They’re Just Restrooms.

Yesterday (loosely speaking) was an absolutely epic day (and night and day) of ridiculous and amazing shenanigans, but even so, we couldn’t escape the fact that some people just beyond stupid and, frankly, should just leave the rest of us the hell alone.

I was out with friends  (a fabulous group of queers and transfolks — and queer transfolks — transfags for the win, heeyy) for seventeen hours. In those seventeen hours, my friend had restroom altercations twice. In the span of half a day, assholes chased my friend out of a public restroom twice. What the hell is wrong with people? Continue reading

Why Is There an M/F Marker On Photo IDs?

It is complete bullshit when photo IDs — like driver’s licenses — require a (misnamed) “gender marker” (you know, that little “F” or “M” on the card). What is the point? There is a photo, and you can’t figure out whether a card matches a person without knowing what’s supposedly in their pants? It’s ridiculous. Continue reading

Is Feminism Outdated? / The Need for Trans Liberation

Or perhaps I should ask, is the word feminism outdated? I’m not questioning whether we live in a postfeminist society, as I think the answer’s pretty clear — compared to (cis)men, (cis)women still make fewer than eighty cents on the dollar, there are still huge double standards, etc. etc. etc. However, the feminist movement’s narrow focus (women’s equality, women’s rights) does not seem expansive enough for the society in which we live. Continue reading

Food for the Potluck!

I can bake! More importantly, I can bake bread! I was a little worried — I haven’t made bread in ages, and it would be really embarrassing if I spent all this time making it . . . and then it didn’t rise, or it tasted bad, or it just looked really unappetizing. Continue reading

How Can You Call Yourself a Parent?

I don’t know what it is, but some parents are freaking unbelievable. In a bad, bad way. Actually, perhaps it’s just that some homophobes and transphobes are parents. And they’re just unreasonable. And, as far as I’m concerned, they don’t deserve to be parents. Now, I know that’s a harsh thing to say: I know I probably have no right to judge whether anyone should be a parent (other than, perhaps, myself).

But who kicks their kid out of the house over a haircut? Continue reading

Taking Back the Colors

Let’s take back nail polish and eye shadow! There’s such a strong societal association between makeup and femininity, girly girls, femmes — a certain kind of woman. Why should that be? I say, people of all kinds and genders should be able to wear makeup and nail polish without shame. Continue reading

This Whole Vegan Thing

I’m really trying to eat a more vegan-influenced diet. Or rather, I’m trying to cook in a more vegan-influenced way, since it hasn’t really affected how I eat outside of the apartment (not that I’ve done a terrible lot of that). I think the hardest things to avoid are cheese and ice cream (and, to a lesser extent, butter). And sugar and such things — I haven’t bothered figuring out whether such things are okay, given that I’m still eating meat when I’m at restaurants.

I sort of wonder where this is going. I’m not really doing it for animals rights issues (otherwise, I would have be avoiding meat full-stop), although I recognize that there are plenty of those. I suppose part of it is almost because it’s a challenge, to see if I can. A little of it is for health reasons. Also partially because I’m still job-searching, and meat is expensive, as are eggs and dairy products.

Largely, I think the reason why I’m at least trying it out is that I think eating lower on the food chain is better for the environment. Continue reading

Don’t Tell Me You “Don’t See Race”

Originally posted at 5:52 PM, February 11, 2010

I’ve heard several people say that they “don’t see race” or “don’t see color.” Without exception, these people have all been white. All of them meant well, certainly; I assume that what they meant was that they do not consider themselves prejudiced against people of color. Still, a statement that one “doesn’t see race” — in this society, at least — reeks of white privilege. Allan G. Johnson quotes James Baldwin in Privilege, Power, and Difference: “To be white in America means not having to think about it” (22). Continue reading