Monthly Archives: October 2010

Actually, No, Violence Is Not The Answer

The person here at ninebullets.net claims that the whole “wear purple to show solidarity” thing is stupid. I agree that it doesn’t work as a response to bullying; purple shirts worn on the 20th of October don’t have magic powers that stop people from getting bullied. However, that doesn’t seem to be the reason why people wore purple shirts yesterday. It was symbolic. It was in solidarity. Perhaps it was more for the people wearing the shirts than for the people being bullied — a way to make some kind of statement that bullying is wrong, even if the people being bullied don’t see that message. Continue reading

“Open” Does Not Mean “Cheating”

Polyamory n : is the non-possessive, honest, responsible and ethical philosophy and practice of loving multiple people simultaneously. Polyamory emphasizes consciously choosing how many partners one wishes to be involved with rather than accepting social norms which dictate loving only one person at a time. . . . [Xero]

So, polyamory. It’s a fairly taboo subject about which to talk, right? Even more so, in a lot of ways, than queer stuff or trans stuff, race or class (although those can also be really sensitive subjects). That’s kind of silly, though.  Continue reading

Why I Disagree with Obama About Discrimination

President Obama recently said, “we don’t make determinations about who we love. That’s why I think discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation is wrong.” I realize that’s a common view (among people who don’t think being gay is wrong). I appreciate that Obama is against discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation. However, I don’t necessarily agree with him. Continue reading

In Honor Of National Coming Out Day

I was recently reminded that there are many reasons to “come out” — that it doesn’t necessarily have to do with gender or sexuality. So, in honor of National Coming Out Day, I would like to come out about a variety of things.

I love the glossy feel of lipgloss and the smooth, lush look of a dark lipstick. I can’t handle wearing either (I think I started to hyperventilate the last time I tried), but part of me wishes I could. I love glitter, sparkles, and sequins. I love the look of a hot pair of stilettos. My inner femme may be buried way down deep inside, but ze’s there (ze’s just a little different from most). Continue reading

Girls Will Be Boys Will Be Girls

Just after posting about that massive children’s book fail, I now have found a complete children’s book win! Okay, so, Girls Will Be Boys Will Be Girls is actually a coloring book. And I really want it. The Amazon product review calls it “a comic deconstruction of traditional gender roles.” How awesome is that?  Continue reading

The Importance of Preferred Pronouns

Think about how many times a day you use pronouns. How many times you say something like, “When will he be here?” or “Do you know her?” or “Give the plate to him” or “He’s late” or “Her coat is over here.” Now, imagine that every single pronoun is a pinprick of hurt, a reminder that — on a very basic level — who you are doesn’t correspond with who people think you are. Continue reading

Children’s Books Teaching Homophobia and Transphobia

Are you serious? I just came back from a vigil in memory of the 9 teens who killed themselves last month because of anti-gay bullying. And then I discovered this link about the book Chased by an Elephant, the Gospel Truth about Today’s Stampeding Sexuality, by Janice Barrett Graham, which is apparently intended to “help shed the clear light of truth on today’s dark and tangled ideas about male and female, proper gender roles, the law of chastity, and the God-given sexual appetite.” The book “champions ex-gay therapy and curing people of their homosexuality.” Continue reading