Monthly Archives: January 2011

Another Year Passes: Letting Go of the Grief and Guilt

And so it comes around again, the 31st of January.

On January 31st, 2009, my friend died. His name was Eric.

It is said that time heals all. That seems, to me, a kind of horrible thing to say, in a way — that time dulls the pain, that time makes us forget — that the passing of time can ease the heartbreak. And yet it can, in a way. Perhaps it’s because we weren’t personally especially close: we were friends through theatre during high school — he was two years younger than I was, and though we did shows together for several years, we had different circles of close friends. Still, we were VISTA, and that meant that we were family, and I loved him. Continue reading


The Most Amazing Person I’ve Ever Met

Owen Daniel-McCarter

Seriously. I know I’ve gone on in the past about various fictional characters and people (David Tennant, Blaine from Glee, Sam Tsui, and the like), but this time, I really mean it. Owen Daniel-McCarter is the most incredible person I’ve ever met (including Dean Spade, and those of you who spent any time near me around the last month or so of my senior year of undergrad know that’s saying a lot). He is just an absolute joy to be around, and he inspires me to be a better person.

Owen founded the Transformative Justice Law Project (TJLP), which provides “free, zealous, life-affirming, and gender-affirming holistic criminal legal services to low-income and street based transgender and gender non-conforming people targeted by the criminal legal system” in the state of Illinois. Continue reading

Success at the Daley Center!

TJLP Attorneys, Interns, and Volunteers at the Name Change Mobilization

Yesterday was such an incredible day. Transformative. Rad. So freaking awesome.

It was the first of TJLP‘s Name Change Mobilizations, and I feel incredibly honored and humbled to work with such a fierce group of activists. Continue reading

Hot Wall: Sam Tsui

Sam Tsui

Sam Tsui is my favorite of the YouTube artists I’ve found. He has an amazing voice, and he does incredible harmonies with himself. Plus, he’s adorable. Continue reading

Response to Cee Lo Green’s “F**k You”

The first time I ever heard the song was on Glee, sung by Gwyneth Paltrow. It was a catchy, upbeat song — a big, New Directions-style dance party (and it’s always nice to see Kurt happy).

A while later, I watched the music video, and I lost interest. It was definitely not a feel-good video. I actually only finished watching it recently in order to write this. It didn’t really seem fair to the woman (there are always two sides to every story and all). And when he ever even “with” her? Continue reading

Musical Memories: Everytime We Touch

My senior year in high school, we were warned that senior pranks would not be tolerated — I don’t remember the exact wording, but dire consequences were threatened. Still, we wanted to do something, and so (with the reasoning that if we were trying to do something nice, we wouldn’t get in trouble) we decided on a “senior surprise.” We chipped in money to buy popsicle-like treats for the upper school to be distributed during lunch, make decorations, and (most importantly) rent a big inflatable slide. Continue reading

Musical Memories: As Cool As I Am

There are certain songs I can’t listen to without thinking of a corresponding memory. It’s not necessarily that the song is particularly fitting — it’s not as though the song would be part of the soundtrack were my life made into a movie. The lyrics don’t always match up to the moment. Still, the song is linked to that memory.

Dar Williams’ “As Cool As I Am” is a pretty much perfect example of what I mean. I adore that song. It is, in many ways, the theme song of my college. It has a special place in my heart for its value to my college community. Although the first time I ever heard the song was when Dar performed it in Goodhart Auditorium right before my freshman year at Bryn Mawr began (pretty awesome introduction, right?), it will alway remind me of May Day at Bryn Mawr.

The May Hole Dance, May Day 2010

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