In the past four weeks at work, I have been called “ma’am,” “she,” or “Miss” (or “Diane” — really?) by roughly 140 different people on the phone. It’s frustrating, especially since it doesn’t feel as though my voice has been getting much lower in the past few weeks. And then I stumbled upon the video above in which Chris Colfer speaks about his voice on Lopez Tonight. The fact that people nearly always assume he’s a woman over the phone makes me feel so much better.
That people keep calling me “ma’am” messes with my head a little, but I try not to let it bother me too much. That I seem to be the only person there having this issue doesn’t help, though. Anyway, there’s not a lot I can do about it, other than hope that my voice drops more, and people stop thinking I’m a woman.
Watching Chris Colfer poke gentle fun at how high his voice is, and mention casually in interviews that people think he’s a woman when they hear him over the phone, makes me feel a little less alone. Having people misgender me over the phone isn’t so bad, right?
And really, I suppose it would make more sense if the person making me feel less alone were another trans person — because I know that I’m not the only one of my friends who has ever had this issue — but that’s unfortunately not the case. Because of my weird work schedule, other than my brief weekly stops at the shot clinic, I haven’t spent time with other trans people in weeks.
Anyway: Chris Colfer. He’s charming and adorable, and I enjoy watching interviews of him.