I’m aware that I’ve already posted about the two biggest parts of the name change process (filing the paperwork and the court date). It seems, however, that the name change process just keep continuing on and on and on. Who knew that there were so very many things to change?
Today, I changed my name on my bank accounts! I had originally thought that I needed to have my state ID in order to change my name on my bank accounts, and since Minnesota actually mails the updated licenses back to people (making it take eleven days and counting*, instead of the two minutes it takes in Chicago), I’d been putting off changing my name at the bank. I discovered today, however, that all it takes is the judgement order (that beautiful form, an official copy of which I carry everywhere with me). So, the names on my accounts are now all my fabulous new legal name, and I’m just waiting to receive my revised debit and credit cards. And, I will shortly have brand new checks — and I know exactly to whom I’m writing my very first check as Ryan (hint: I’ve been trying to get people to donate to them for ages). Continue reading
Posted in Life, Trans/Queer
Tagged Bryn Mawr, college, frustration, high school, Minnesota, name change, names, postaday2011, trans, transition
Months ago, I wrote a post I titled “Broken Promises and Castles Built On Air,” although I put off posting it until recently. I focused on my desire to not be the person constantly making fantastic plans without following through, but how I approached others’ promises stayed the same. That might change now.
I posted earlier about my worries regarding my name change court date, particularly my worry that my friend wouldn’t show up to support me. It was irrational and absolutely not reflective of my friend, but I’ve somehow trained myself to not truly believe it when someone gets really excited about something I’m doing and promises they’ll be there (other than my parents, but they’re different). If I don’t expect them to be there, maybe it won’t hurt quite as much when they don’t show up. Continue reading
Posted in Chicago, Life, Rambles
Tagged belief, change, disappointment, faith, friends, high school, memories, name change, postaday2011, promises
When I was in A.P. Biology, during my junior year in high school, we raised Monarch butterflies: we watched them grow from little dots on a leaf into beautiful butterflies. Actually watching them emerge from their chrysalises as fully formed butterflies was amazing. In some ways, I feel like Chicago has helped me with my own butterfly-like transformation. Continue reading
Posted in Chicago, Life
Tagged change, Chicago, community, friends, gender, life, Minnesota, moving, name change, names, politics, preferred pronouns, trans, transformation, transgender, transition
How did you get your name?
The Daily Post’s 83rd topic prompt, for the 28th of March, is “How did you get your name? — Who chose it, and why?” That’s kind of wonderful, given that March 28th is the day that I legally changed my name to my chosen name. Continue reading
The judge just signed my legal name change forms at the Daley Center! Not my best photo (I'm both really tired and really happy), but it was a momentous occasion.
Today, I finally had my court date to legally change my name! Despite all of my fears, it went so smoothly — a really fantastic experience (similar to the how well the paperwork went). Continue reading
TJLP Attorneys, Interns, and Volunteers at the Name Change Mobilization
Yesterday was such an incredible day. Transformative. Rad. So freaking awesome.
It was the first of TJLP‘s Name Change Mobilizations, and I feel incredibly honored and humbled to work with such a fierce group of activists. Continue reading
Posted in Chicago, Life, Trans/Queer
Tagged activism, Chicago, community, Daley Center, empowerment, identity, joy, legal system, name change, names, Owen Daniel-McCarter, postaday2011, TJLP, trans, transformative justice, transgender
My new goal in life is to be a mermaid.
No, seriously, it is. Just not in the usually understood meaning of the word “mermaid.” Last night, I went to the Transformative Justice Law Project‘s Name Change Mobilization Advocate Training. Basically, TJLP is having volunteer-run days in order to help transgender and gender non-conforming people legally change their names (because the paperwork and all is stressful. And the building is intimidating), and it was about teaching the volunteers what to do. Continue reading